Willpower: How To Get More Of It And Need Less Of It



If only I had more willpower.

This is a common statement from many of my beautiful clients and I’ve thought it myself on more than a few occasions!

We know thanks to the wonders of modern technology that willpower is mainly regulated by the prefrontal cortex – the part of the brain just behind the forehead. There ARE other parts of the brain involved as well, but the prefrontal cortex is the major player.

Anything that puts a stress on the mind or body will affect this part of the brain and reduce your willpower.

Being sleep deprived, affected by alcohol, sick, or in chronic pain all cause our willpower to become conspicuous by its absence.

Anxiety and depression are also common willpower depleters.

Let’s look at what we can do to reduce our reliance on willpower in making the right decisions for our health.


Develop an awareness of when you give in to impulses

Instead of beating yourself up for your distinct lack of willpower, become more aware of what’s  contributed to the situation.

Were you stressed or tired? What were you feeling at the time?

What were you thinking?

Once you have a clearer picture of the situation, you can then build some solutions into your plan.

As an example of what this might look like, as a recovering workaholic, I used to frequently skimp on sleep trying to get ‘one more thing’ off my endless to do list.

Grabbing a Coke to help me power through became a common occurrence.

With awareness, these days I’m much more likely to heed the signs that I need to sleep and head to bed instead. Or take a quick nap to recharge if I’ve hit an afternoon slump.

Willpower is depleted through the day

Willpower acts a bit like a muscle. You can build it up (which we’ll talk about shortly), but it gets depleted with use.

Incredibly, we make somewhere between 100 & 200 food related decisions a day!

Which is why supermarkets have lollies at the checkout.

They sell more lollies and sweets by displaying them there because we’ve exhausted our willpower with the millions of decisions we make as we shop.

We get decision fatigue.

Strategically placing products in this way CAN be used to boost our health, but unfortunately you don’t often see it. Studies show that supermarkets will sell more health related products such as fruit, dental floss and condoms when they have them at the checkout.

How do we make this work for us?

If you find yourself succumbing to the lollies at the checkout, make use of the confectionary free aisles if your supermarket has them.

We can prevent or minimise willpower depletion by reducing the number of decisions we make through the day.

By structuring our environment so that we automatically make better decisions without having to think about it, we save that precious willpower for when we really need it.

It’s like magic!

Research by Brian Wansink and his team reveals that simply by swapping to a smaller plate we’ll reduce our portion size by an amazing 20 to 30%.

Similarly, keeping those unhealthy snacks out of the house if possible or if not, at least out of sight and preferably somewhere super inconvenient can really make a difference.

This also works in reverse. Placing a fruit bowl in full view on the counter increases the likelihood that it’ll actually get eaten. In one study, the average time fruit lasted in a fruit bowl was 8 days while fruit stored in the fridge lasted a whopping seventeen days!

Taking your lunch to work instead of buying it can also be an effective willpower saving strategy.  

You’re not trying to make a decision when you’re stressed, in a willpower depleted state and surrounded by delicacies in the cafe with your name on them!

And as an extra bonus, you save money too!

Use bright lines

Bright lines are simply rules that you set yourself.

In reality they make life so much easier. Gone is the ‘Will I, won’t I’ dance that all too often leads to giving in to temptation and guilt and recriminations later.

In my life I’ve set some bright lines around alcohol that I find really helpful.

There is real freedom in making these decisions ahead of time.

Have a think about where bright lines might come in handy in your life.

Maybe it’s a bright line around buying chocolate from the supermarket.

Imagine being free of those guilty excursions up the chocolate aisle and the feeling of regret later.

Or you might set yourself a rule that you don’t eat while watching television (in another study, participants ate 28% more popcorn when watching for an hour than those who watched for half an hour).

Even if you’re a bit of a rebel and a rule-breaker like me, give this strategy a go. You just might be surprised at how effective it really is!

Distance yourself from temptation

I talked about this in my article on cravings.

When we’re tempted, all of our good intentions suddenly don’t seem quite so important.

We’re consumed by the object of our desire.

We need to cool those flames and rekindle our motivation instead.

One way to distance ourselves is to put some time and space between us and the object of temptation.

We can do this physically by putting the chocolate out of sight, for instance, or turning our back on a buffet, or simply by distracting ourselves for ten minutes.

Rekindle your motivation by getting back in touch with your why. Your reason for being healthy.

By making your motivation really vivid and bright and the object of your desire small and distant, you’re redressing the balance and making it far more likely that your actions will align with your good intentions.

Ask yourself ‘What is it I really need?’

As I discussed in my post on cravings, regularly asking yourself the question ‘What is it I really need?’ will really serve you.

Instead of what you believe you desperately need in that moment, you’re likely to find it being something that nurtures your soul instead.

It could be as simple as some me time with a beautiful cup of tea and your favourite magazine.

It can be really helpful to have a go-to list of nurturing activities ready so when those moments hit and you desperately need SOMETHING but you don’t know what, you can try something beautiful off your list.

Now that we’ve talked about how to need less willpower, how do we INCREASE our willpower?

More sleep

Apparently Americans get around 2 hours less sleep than in 1960.

And in the same time waistlines have expanded. Some researchers believe this isn’t a coincidence.

It makes sense when we remember how being sleep deprived  reduces our willpower.

Take a closer look at your sleep habits and whether there is room to improve in this area.

You absolutely CAN sleep your way to better health!


The willpower boosting effects of meditation are yet another great reason to try it if you haven’t already.

Regular meditators have more grey matter in the areas of their brain that deal with willpower and in one study researchers found that just three hours of meditation led to improvements in willpower.

Meditation also reduces stress, boosts the immune system and a cascade of other positive effects in the body so there’s never been a better time to give it a try!

Less clutter

Decluttering seems to be the current buzzword and for whatever reason, having less clutter around us seems to have a positive effect on willpower.

Who knew?

And you never know, sometimes decluttering also leads to other unexpected advantages. If you’ve ever found a gift voucher a month after it’s expired, you know what I mean!

Green exercise

No, you don’t have to dress in green while raising a sweat! Green exercise is simply exercise that you do outdoors in nature.

Australian psychologists Megan Oaten and Ken Cheng studied the effects of green exercise on willpower where participants exercised just 3 days per week. Participants reduced their smoking, caffeine and junk food intake without being asked to. They also ate more healthy food and spent less time watching television.

Just 5 mins of green exercise decreases stress, improves mood, boosts self control, so you don’t have to do a ton of exercise to get positive effects.

Another great reason to move our bodies!

Practice using self control on the little things

Similar to building up our muscle mass through resistance training, we can increase our willpower by practicing on minor habits such as improving our posture or changing speech patterns.

In real life this might look like noticing every time you cross your legs and uncrossing them or noticing speech patterns such as umms and aahs and making changes there.

Use EFT (or tapping) 

I’ve saved the best for last! Tapping is simply amazing for dissolving those cravings and reducing the compulsion we sometimes feel for certain foods. And where willpower can seem to vanish just when we need it, tapping is super effective in just a few minutes. 

It’s absolutely perfect for those times when the chocolate in Aisle 3 is calling your name!

It’s easy to learn, backed by gold standard research and I’m seeing impressive results with my clients.

So there you have it – a whole range of strategies to build up your willpower muscle, minimise willpower depletion as well as an amazing tool that in many instances replaces the need to even use willpower!

If you’d like to find out more about tapping, check out the video below:



For further reading and more information on the studies mentioned in this post, check out the following resources:

Mindless Eating by Brian Wansink, PH. D

Maximum Willpower by Kelly McGonigal

24 Responses to Willpower: How To Get More Of It And Need Less Of It

  1. Jul's April 4, 2017 at 11:24 pm #

    Wow! I love all of these suggestions for strengthening my “willpower muscle”! I’ve been eating off a salad plate for years and years, I prefer it to a large dinner plate and knew Brian Wansink’s Cornell University study just confirmed this practice as he talks how a smaller plate has us eat less without effort.

    I love your video and hearing your soothing Australian accent! I found reading and listening helped my mind take in all your practical and powerful learning detail.

    Such great doable suggestions! Thank you Clare 🙂

    • Claire April 5, 2017 at 6:24 am #

      So glad you found it helpful Jul’s!

  2. Michele Cole April 5, 2017 at 2:29 am #

    Hello Claire! Your video is awesome, as always. I have definitely found that having more than a glass of wine in the evening definitely affects my willpower in snacking and other healthy habits I try to have in the evenings. The bright line technique is definitely one I’ll be adopting. Thank you for posting!

  3. Caroline April 5, 2017 at 7:53 am #

    Great information Claire, I love your actionable tips. I find that if I go for a walk or exercise in the evening it cuts down on my evening snacking. Meditation and mindfulness also really helps. Thank you!

    • Claire April 8, 2017 at 12:03 pm #

      So glad you found it helpful, Caroline! Well done on your choices – walking and meditation and mindfulness are fabulous tools 🙂

  4. Melanie Kernodle April 7, 2017 at 8:15 am #

    So much great information and tips! Thank you for sharing. One thing I struggle with is recognizing when I am giving into impulses or temptations and then stopping myself from doing that. I find that I am noticing more when I get off track or when I’m doing something I shouldn’t but then I have a heard time quitting the habit and doing what I know I should be doing.

    • Claire April 8, 2017 at 12:02 pm #

      Thanks for sharing Melanie. Awareness is the first step. It gives a little distance so you’re not caught up in the impulse. And from there we can choose differently. Baby steps 🙂

  5. Cachet April 7, 2017 at 9:40 pm #

    Great, right-on-time article, Claire! I love the idea of setting bright lines as a way of proactively avoiding in-the-moment decision fatigue. I can think of many a moment where I was challenged to make an on the spot decision and usually went with the decision that required less willpower. Thanks for giving me ways to better equip myself!

    • Claire April 8, 2017 at 12:00 pm #

      No problems Cachet. There is a lot of freedom in setting bright lines 🙂

  6. Angela Taylor April 8, 2017 at 4:49 am #

    There is so much helpful information in this post. I love the de-cluttering part! I think you’re so right about it. I have noticed that when studio is a mess (like now) I tend to feel like I’m emotionally cluttered you could say. Then when it’s clean and easier to find things, etc. I feel much better.
    Another thing that I absolutely loved was your mentioning what they put out in stores, etc. How when our willpower is low we tend not to make the best decisions, which is why stores tend to sell so well when putting things out at the checkout. I never thought about that, but you make a very good point!!! I absolutely agree!
    Anyway, wonderful post!

    • Claire April 8, 2017 at 11:59 am #

      Thanks Angela – so glad you found it helpful!

  7. Pam April 10, 2017 at 12:28 am #

    Oh my goodness – there is so much great information and advice I need here! Like I need to take each section and reflect on that as a weekly action! 100-200 decisions about food daily! As I am about to head to a dinner shortly, I fear it is more! For me, sleep is the most important of all.. If I sleep, then I can “potentially” achieve the others a little easier.. if I am sleep deprived.. I eat bad stuff and am not very productive. Can’t wait to read more!

    • Claire April 10, 2017 at 9:38 am #

      So glad you enjoyed it Pam! Sleep is such a biggie that we definitely underestimate its importance 🙂

  8. Bouchra Rebiai April 10, 2017 at 1:36 am #

    100-200 food-related decisions?! Just WOW!

    I love this post. I’m here sitting feeling sapped of all my willpower due to some unexpected setbacks with work, and I’m trying to resist every part of me that’s telling me to shut down and stop everything.

    Maybe I do need a break! Thank you for the reminder 🙂

    • Claire April 10, 2017 at 9:36 am #

      I can certainly relate Bouchra to that feeling of wanting to push through! So glad the article helped 🙂

  9. Erin April 12, 2017 at 10:56 pm #

    So many useful strategies on increasing our willpower. I definitely find having enough sleep helps. Sleep deprivation does not do me any good on decision making and sometimes I forget the important elements. Thanks for the great insights.

    • Claire April 21, 2017 at 6:53 pm #

      You’re welcome Erin! We’ve overlooked the importance of sleep generally as a society in our quest for constantly doing. This is still a work in progress for me but I’m getting there!

  10. April M Lee April 14, 2017 at 4:07 am #

    i love your suggestions for increasing willpower, claire! i’ve been adding a moving meditation to my daily routine in the form of qi gong, and it has helped tremendously with the decision fatigue you speak of.

    • Claire April 21, 2017 at 6:51 pm #

      Qi Gong is a beautiful practice – I must try it again myself! Thank you for reminding me 🙂

  11. Tressa April 19, 2017 at 6:40 pm #

    Such a helpful article. “By structuring our environment so that we automatically make better decisions without having to think about it, we save that precious willpower for when we really need it.” <–This line really resonated with me and I know I need to do more of this in my every day life so I can set myself up for success. Thank you for all the tips.

    • Claire April 21, 2017 at 6:48 pm #

      You’re welcome Tressa! So glad you found it helpful. It’s amazing how a few simple tweaks can make all the difference!

  12. Pam April 27, 2017 at 11:40 pm #

    This is chalk full of fantastic advice.. I think no matter where we are, we can all apply them to something.. I like the idea of bright lines.. I think I need more of them in my life.. not just around food, but also in other instances. I look forward to trying some of these.

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